What I Learned Watching my Parents Die

What I Learned Watching my Parents Die

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 Licensed Psychological Associate – Daughter, Wife, Sister

Have you ever thought about how your life would change if you decided to care for your dad through the final stages of his life at home.

My father was diagnosed with stomach cancer and we cared for him at home. Seeing my dad suffering was brutal. Although I treasure those 8 weeks, watching the decline took its toll on me, my husband and kids.

You would think that being trained to understand triggers, emotions and human interactions would offer me some type of super-power, but that wasn’t the case. I learned some valuable lesso  and thought I was better prepared for my mom.

I wasn’t.

The situation was very different, It spanned 10 years and many different levels of care. By the time she began her decline, most of her friends and family were deceased and her needs ultimately required placement in assisted living.

Care giving situations are always unique, and thankfully they don’t all end in death. Whether recuperating after surgery or an end-of-life scenario, the stress and emotional toll placed on the caregivers seems to be similar.

Care giving is a gift and honor

Providing care is a way to care for those who have cared for us; however, sometimes the people we are providing care for may not have been kind to us and that makes the emotions even more complex.

The emotions and feelings can be overwhelming and confusing, one moment there is sadness and pain, the next moment joy and laughter, and for most exhaustion.

If you’ve started thinking about how taking care of someone might be impacting you or your family, talking with someone who isn’t judging you is the first step to feeling better. Learn how iTherapy can help.”

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