Thriving Thoughts Terminate Toxic Thoughts: Strategies for Building Self-Esteem

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Thriving Thoughts Terminate Toxic Thoughts: Strategies for Building Self-Esteem

Self esteem is the feelings you have about yourself as a human being. Being human is hard. It’s even harder when your negative toxic thoughts are overwhelming and hard to ignore. With some practice you can find some ways to adjust your toxic thoughts to thriving thoughts. Here are some options you may find helpful.

Free yourself from “should-ing” all over yourself. When we focus on what we or others think we “should” be doing. Live your life on the basis of what is possible for you and what feels right to you. Find out what you want and what you are good at, value those, and take actions designed to fulfill your potential.

Recognize and respect you own needs, wants and desires. Identify what really fulfills you will assist you increasing your sense of worth and wellbeing. This would be a good opportunity to review Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.

Set achievable goals. Establish goals on the basis of what you can realistically achieve, and then work step-by-step to develop your potential. S.M.A.R.T. goal setting is a great option.
S- SPECIFIC: Make your goals specific and narrow for more effective planning
M- MEASUREABLE: Define what evidence will prove you’re making progress
A- ATTAINABLE: Make sure you can reasonable accomplish your goal
R- RELEVANT: Goals should align with your values and long term objectives
T- TIME-BASED: Set a realistic, ambitious end date for motivation

Talk to yourself positively. Stop listening to your “cruel inner critic”. When you notice that you are doubting or judging yourself, replace these toxic thoughts with self-accepting thoughts. Using positive affirmations can assist you in challenging your toxic thoughts with thriving thoughts. Positive affirmations are statements that are repeated to encourage and uplift the person speaking them. Positive affirmations are personal and meaningful to you.
Here are some examples of positive affirmations:
I treat myself with respect and honor
I accept and embrace myself for who I am
I appreciate all the lessons that life has taught me
I grow and become a better version of myself every day!
I do my best every day

Take chances. New experience are learning experiences which can build self-confidence. Expect to make mistakes as part of the process; don’t be disappointed if you don’t do it perfectly. Feel good about trying something new, making progress and increasing your competence.

Emphasize your strengths. Focus on what you can do rather than what you cannot. Accept current limitations an live comfortably within them, even as you consider what strengths you might want or need to develop next.

Rely on your own opinion of yourself. Entertain feedback from others, but don’t rely on their opinions. Depend on your own values in making decisions and deciding how you feel about yourself and what is right for you to do.

Please feel free to let me know if you have any questions or would like additional information. Take good care of yourself and have a great week!


Jessicca Shumard | Online Counseling, Start Your Private Practice with iTherapy

Jessica Shumard, with Elevating Peaceful Purpose is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) practicing in the State of Missouri. As a trained master’s level mental health counselor she has 15 years experience working with individuals navigating depression, anxiety, grief, major life stressors, life transitions, work/life balance, caregiver stressors, boundaries, self-esteem, environmental stressors, and finding overall balance/wellness. Elevating Peaceful Purpose’s goal is to empower you to navigate through the mess of life. Together working to find your inner harmony, reduce stress, transform limiting beliefs, calm the mind, fuel the body and find balance within your spirit. Call (877) 785-7273 or email  to set up a FREE 20-minute consultation. Visit Jessica Shumard’s profile page.


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