Have you ever experienced a time in life when you found yourself getting upset about something little? I mean, like really silly on the surface?
I often tell a story in therapy about mustard. Yes, mustard. If mustard isn’t your thing, replace it with something that is. There’s a point to it. Promise. Have you ever had a day when you walked into the kitchen and someone left mustard sitting out on the counter? You begin to yell and say mean things to that person. I mean, come on! It isn’t that difficult to put the mustard back into the refrigerator, is it? Meanwhile you engage in more hurtful words because someone just couldn’t put the mustard away and now you’ll have to purchase a new one. Whoa! Where did all this anger and hurtfulness come from? Are we really that upset that someone didn’t put away mustard with a replacement value of $1? The likely answer is “no." So why the freak out about the mustard then? Great question!
You know, it’s hard to tell people how we feel - like how we REALLY feel. Maybe the person who left the mustard out is our spouse that we feel has been distant or maybe it is our teenage daughter who brought home her 3rd detention this quarter. It’s quite possible that we are struggling with how to communicate accurately with our loved ones. The problem is that all these negative feelings continue to build up until…well…until they explode on something trivial, like mustard.
Taking the first steps to a better version of YOU can seem overwhelming. There can be so much stress associated with finding a therapist in addition to: scheduling time off from work, driving to therapy, getting stuck in traffic, sitting in a waiting room with other people – everything! This is why my therapy practice is 100% online. You save time and have the ability to participate in therapy from the comfort of your own space. That’s right, you can even participate in an online session from your car! Or maybe your bedroom? Your office? You get to choose!
How’s that for starting therapy off right? YOU get to choose your comfortable space. Imagine being able to talk freely to your therapist while you have your dog sitting right next to you? Isn’t it awesome the way technology has opened this door for you?! Now is the time to re-imagine therapy and what it looks like for you and your future.
Growing up, my dad served in the Navy and I was affectionately referred to as a “military brat.” Through this upbringing, I learned the valuable skill of resiliency. Now, my husband and I pass along this same skill to our three children who are also “military brats." As a “military brat” and now as a military spouse, I understand the day-to-day obstacles we face in this lifestyle. I love working with people that have a military affiliation; however this is not a requirement. I think it’s interesting how we all get on “our path” in life. I didn’t know that I wanted to be a therapist until one day I was listening to the radio about the lack of services available for our gracious military members. At that time I didn’t have a bachelor’s degree, but I did have strong motivation. During our next military move, I made a huge lifestyle change and went back to school. That was and continues to be an incredibly rewarding decision.
I absolutely love going to the beach with a book and enjoying the meditative sound of the waves in the background. I like to bake and I contribute that passion to my mom who grew up on a farm and taught me (like her dad taught her) how to cook and bake from scratch. I love watching documentaries to include true crime series and find myself really drawn to listening to books when driving alone.
- BA-Psychology from Hawai’i Pacific University
- MA-Marriage and Family Therapy from Northcentral University
- Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Virginia #07171001551
- Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Florida #MT3747
I have experience working with children and adolescents in an inpatient hospital setting as well as with couples, families, adolescents and individuals in a face-to-face outpatient setting.
Specialties & Issues
Maybe you don’t quite know what you want from therapy and/or how therapy can help you. Actually, it’s more common than you think to feel like this. I integrate a variety of therapeutic techniques to help you work through past trauma, life transitions, relationship issues, depression, and anxiety. We’ll work together to discover where to begin this journey.
As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I am trained to think and work in “systems,” but what does that mean for you? Using a systems approach, I help you uncover your role in interactions with your friends, family, community, etc. Why is this helpful? It’s helpful because you see yourself from a new perspective as a unique person part of a larger unit who each function from the feedback of others. Yes, each action or inaction you take place in does impact those around you. In the case of you going to therapy, it is very likely that the unit you are part of will begin to change, too. But why? It’s because YOU are an important part of that unit!
I also like to dive deeper into not only you as a part of a bigger unit or system, but to look at YOU as your own system too. Your body is incredible and has so many different parts that make it work. There is a bunch of research and evidence with ways to help your body work better and no, that doesn’t mean that you just need to exercise all the time. Phew….right?! There is so much more to overall health and well-being and how it is linked to our own mental health. The research can be daunting, which is why I’m here to help walk you through the stuff that is most important for you to know.
Services & Rates
If you are interested in online therapy, but wondering if it is the right fit for you, please request a free 20-minute Consultation.
- 20-minute Initial Consultation - FREE
- 30-minute Individual Secure Video Session - $70
- 60-minute Individual Secure Video Session - $140
- 60-minute Couple/Family Secure Video Session - $170
- Optum/United Healthcare
*I am working to become paneled with Tricare and Military One Source. I will update once approved.
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